Greetings from Handmade Parenting!
Do you sometimes feel at a loss in your role as parent? That you aren't sure how to respond to some of your child's behavior? Do you grow impatient or angry more often than you'd like? Do you sometimes feel like your child sees you as his or her opponent? I get it.
Do you wish you had a better approach for the challenging moments of parenting? Do you yearn for a closer relationship with your child? Would you like your child to know that you are her "best bet"? That you are the one who will tenderly hold his or her heart? I get it.
As parents, we have so much love for our children; we want only the best for them. But sometimes, daily behaviors and patterns of interaction feel complicated; we don't know how to respond to rude or aggressive behavior; we find ourselves triggered and saying things we never thought we’d say; we find ourselves engaged in power struggles, arguments or endless iterations of consequences. I get it.
In Discipline: A New Paradigm, which is based on the attachment-based developmental theory of Dr. Gordon Neufeld, we will start at the beginning: with our relationship with our child. We will come to understand that our connection with them is the root of their growth, happiness, maturity and development. We will learn how to make sense of our child's behavior (and misbehavior!) and how to preserve our relationship with them, no matter what comes our way.
Warm, firm, calm, kind and generous: This is the new paradigm. Won’t you align your parenting with your heart this year? Join me.
Lisa: I am thrilled to be adding a new online class to Handmade Parenting’s roster of online offerings; Discipline: A New Paradigm will launch on 1/30! I have spent the last few months translating the rich content from my popular in-person Discipline classes to a warm online format. The online class website is incredibly user-friendly and easy to navigate; the content is a balanced combination of work-at-your-own-pace videos (watch them during nap time/on your phone during your train commute/at the gym etc.), a vibrant parent forum for connecting and sharing, and Saturday morning live group coaching calls. I hope you will join me!
This weekend, Handmade Parenting is generously offering the following to ALL lucky SouleMama readers:
When you sign up for Discipline: A New Paradigm between 1/14-1/18 with the code SOULEMAMA, you will receive a lovely Cozy Study Kit delivered to your doorstep! The Cozy Study Kit includes many delightful items from small businesses I love including: a hand thrown mug from Of Hand Studios, small batch truffles from Missionary Chocolates, handcrafted tea from Tea Chai Te, a washcloth from Rough Linen, my favorite parenting book & more. Obviously, the true “bonus” of signing up for the class is the deep connection you will experience: both to your child and to your parenting intuition, but the cozy study kit is a nice little “extra”!
As anticipated and as we've talked about at least every couple of days for the past year, Annabel joined the Soule Family Skiers this year (five is the magic age in our house). That photo above is what Steve sent me of her, on her way to her first run of the tiny "magic carpet" (he also wanted me to know that he adjusted her helmet properly after this - she was so squirrelly to get up there that it took a little bit of chasing - while wrangling three other kids - to get her to hold still long enough for it). As we expected, she loved every second of her day (as evidenced by the crumbly mess of exhaustion that showed up at the end of the day, ready to crash into bed!). The kids say she was making great turns, was brave but not risky, and happy to be there and out in the elements all day, despite it being exceptionally cold. Its official - she's in!
She had many stories to tell me the next day, once recovered from exhaustion, mostly about how she was THE FASTEST person on the mountain. The whole mountain. The FASTEST. (I didn't know that was a goal.) Later in the day, while I was making dinner, I heard her fishing around in my studio mumbling to herself. I intended to check in - sometimes things go missing from my studio for all kinds of crazy reasons and often that's not a good thing (nothing like searching for your pinking shears only to find out they've been absconded to the barn and used for duct tape). But dinner distracted me and I forgot all about it until this morning, when I noticed a pile of fabric next to Annabel's bed. "What's going on with this?" I asked. "Oh," she said "those are going to be my dresses."
Because, it turns out, if you are now a skier on ski Tuesday, that doesn't mean that Tuesday dresses are a thing of the past. It just means that you sew them on a different day of the week. That's what she told me, anyway. And well, how could I argue with that?
My machines are a bit dusty (literally), as is my sewing. It seems ages since I've sewn more than a curtain hem, or put a quick patch on someone's pants. It can't have been that long, but it does feel that way. I'm glad for the push from her, though....it'll be nice to sew today.
We added another chair at the kitchen table this weekend, as we greeted our French exchange student. He'll be here with us for three months (and then Calvin will go back to France with him for three months). Having only had just one Skype call before his arrival, and with my poor French (very, very poor), you might understand why I was a little bit nervous about all of this. But I needn't have been - we hit the jackpot with this one, who already fits right on into the family. And thus, a regular weekend at home was just enjoyed - full of skiing, sledding, ice skating, music, chess and all of those things. Just with an extra teenager in the house. But as I know I've said here before, I do love teenagers, and I love a full house too. We definitely have that going on these days, and in abundance. And as I look at that last photo above, I see the bit of exposed lathe from the project we started there nearly three years ago now. You know, I don't usually even see it anymore, let alone fret about it. But I do see the full table...and for that I'm so grateful.
Greetings from Homestead Honey!
My blog, Homestead Honey, is a space for inspiration, resources, and connection. I share and celebrate the joys and challenges of our off-grid homesteading, homeschooling life in hopes that others might be inspired to live their own homestead dream.
My current offering, Gather & Glean Homestead Mentorship Circle is 10-week group coaching and mentorship program for women who are passionate about homesteading and community. In Gather & Glean, we come together as circle of radical homesteading women who are similarly motivated to achieve our dreams and glean wisdom from one another’s experience.
The next Gather & Glean Circle begins on January 16, a perfect time to get clarity around your values and vision, and to set powerful intentions and take inspired action on your goals and dreams in the New Year!
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SouleMama: Welcome to sponsorship on SouleMama! Please tell us about the beginnings of your business, and how you've come to be where you are now?
Hello! I'm Teri, a mama to two, Ella (9) and Everett (6), and wife of Brian, an artist blacksmith. My blog, Homestead Honey began about five years ago as a journal-style blog, sharing family and homestead life with two young children. In 2012, our family packed up our Oregon homestead of 13 years and moved onto raw land in NE Missouri to create an off the grid homestead from scratch. The process of detailing the creation of our homestead transformed the blog into a central part of my online business.
I'm also a life coach and work closely with women who want to create a life that is closely aligned with their vision and values. I'm passionate about homesteading, Waldorf-inspired homeschooling, gardening, and creative entrepreneurship, and love helping others grow their own homesteads, produce more food for their family, and create businesses that they love.
My latest offering is a small group coaching program for women who are passionate about homesteading and community: Gather & Glean Homestead Mentorship Circle. By creating a deep virtual community, Gather & Glean provides support, structure, and weekly motivation to help women take huge leaps forward in their homestead dreams. It's pretty magical to come together in this circle of women and see the transformations that occur!
This weekend, Homestead Honey is generously offering the following gift to ONE lucky SouleMama reader:
enrollment in the January Gather & Glean Homestead Mentorship Circle
To enter today's giveaway, leave a comment below (one entry per person, please). Comments will close by 9 am EST on Monday. Winners will be chosen by Random Number Generator and announced in this post shortly after. Comments closed. The winner is...
What a wonderful giveaway! Thank you.
Posted by: Tracey
Greetings from Mindful Clutter Clearing!
The Mindful Clutter Clearing e-course is a 7-week journey to a more spacious, peaceful, and intentional home. Begin your new year on a positive note by clearing away the clutter from your home and life, and make room for what really matters to you. With seven weeks of mindful guidance, inspiring podcasts, guest interviews, and take-action homework assignments, we will work together to gain more space in our homes, and face the year ahead with renewed energy and purpose.
Clutter clearing is work that is both emotional and physical in nature, and in this course we address both pieces equally, with gentle encouragement. By teasing out the meaning of the complex emotions at the root of clutter, you may suddenly find yourself able to let go of items you have been holding onto for years (or decades!); and by learning to break down a seemingly overwhelming task into doable bite-size pieces, you can begin to make strides in clearing your space with confidence instead of fear. Think of this course as your personal guide, walking you through simple steps that add up to great changes in your home and life.
Along with the class, you will receive a printable PDF course workbook and journal; lifetime membership in the private (and completely optional) Mindful Clutter Clearing Facebook group; and a downloadable e-book packed with all of the lessons and assignments covered in class. The course is given in "real time", meaning the lessons and podcasts will be tailored to our group, and I will be available to answer questions throughout the course.
SouleMama: Since the last time you were featured on SouleMama, in what ways has your business grown or changed? Is there anything new you'd like to tell us about?
Laura: Thanks to wonderful feedback from former students, I have decided to make this session of Mindful Clutter Clearing the longest yet, at seven weeks. This extra time will allow for more breathing space to dig deeply into the lessons, as well as a week devoted to facing (and surmounting!) common stumbling blocks on the road to a clutter-free space, including the fear of finishing, the trap of perfectionism in a Pinterest-perfect culture, and our resistance to accepting help when we need it.
This weekend, Mindful Clutter Clearing is generously offering the following gift to THREE lucky SouleMama readers:
One spot in the upcoming Mindful Clutter Clearing e-course, which begins January 16.
To enter today's giveaway, leave a comment below (one entry per person, please). Comments will close by 9 am EST on Sunday. Winners will be chosen by Random Number Generator and announced in this post shortly after. Comments closed. The winners are...
Removing clutter is a good thing.
Posted by: Jone
I would be so grateful to win this, I could soooo use it! This sounds like a great course, and wonderful business, thank you!
Posted by: Heidi
I would love to win this!
Posted by: Cheryl Meier
I do so love the holiday crafting that happens in the last months of the year. It's exciting and fun, thinking about the person we're crafting for, and being caught up in the flurry and good energy of the elving season. But after that, January crafting might just be my favorite of all. The clearing of the slate that comes with a new year makes way for so much, both in the trying of new things, and in the finishing of old ones. Invariably, in the month of January, I finish so many unfinished things that have been languishing for ages. And when it's stormy and cold outside, there's really nothing better. My eyes are beginning to turn to piles of yarn and fabric everywhere, scheming and dreaming up what could be done. And my hands are full - motivated to finish old projects (so close to the finish line on my Mountain High sweater that I am loving so much!), and excited to play around with something new. Many of you asked about where I got my crochet instruction and I wanted to tell you that I watched the beginner videos by Cal Patch on Creativebug (borrowing Adelaide's subscription there, because my girl LOVES those video tutorials!). I was watching on my phone one evening this week next to Ezra on the coach, engrossed in his own thing. "Wow!" he looked up. "I know, right?" I replied. Because it's true, Cal has the most amazing teaching voice ever, so patient and mellow, you believe you can do anything. Like crochet a granny square.
There's more stormy weather coming, or at least cold weather that makes outside play less fun. I think I'll be playing with yarn.
And you? Has the January crafting bug hit?
Greetings! I'm Amanda Blake Soule - mother of five, author of three books on family creativity, and editor-in-chief of Taproot Magazine. I live with my family in an old farmhouse in Western Maine where we raise animals, grow vegetables and make lots of things. I write about it all here on the blog. Thank you for visiting!